Losing the love of your life is very painful and surviving the loss may seem impossible. But keep in mind that you have to begin the journey towards healing and moving on for yourself and for your children. It will be a long process – an overwhelming, frightening and lonely journey but trust me, you’ll get through it.
In this article, I will talk about a few ways that may help you cope with the loss and the transition from wife to widow, or husband to widower.
Allow Yourself to Mourn
No matter how strong you want to be for your children, give yourself the permission to mourn. It is okay to grieve – don’t deny it. Acknowledging the loss and allowing yourself to mourn is an essential part of healing.
Surround Yourself with Loved Ones
During this time, it is best to be with the people who love you. You may want to mourn but don’t isolate yourself from other people. A strong support system will help you go through this traumatic journey a little less painful than it already is. Be with the people who acknowledge your emotions and those who are willing to accompany you through the whole journey.
If you have children, be with them and try to understand their grief while also handling your own. In a way, you will feel your partner’s love through your kids.
Take Care of Yourself
Sometimes, loss can make you feel like there’s no more reason to wake up every day. But ask yourself if this is what your late husband/wife wants. It is okay to feel down, to cry, to sulk but always remember to get enough sleep and eat balanced meals.
Don’t Bottle Up Your Feelings
Express your grief openly. Allow yourself to talk about what you feel and how your partner was when he/she was still alive. Reminisce the old times and talk about the memories that you and your spouse have shared together. This is when healing starts.
Don’t Rush Things
Saying goodbye is not easy but at the right time, you will be able to let go. Just take it one day at a time.
Don’t Lose Faith
Never question God or distance yourself from Him because of the loss. He has a reason for everything. Keep the faith and always pray for strength and guidance.